Why Did I Stop Writing?

Woooooosahhhhhhh! Ok this is what happened. I didn’t stop writing, I actually wrote every night in my journal. Writing actually feels soothing to me, it’s like making love when the pen touches the paper and your hands just glide over as you write (hopeless romantic here lol) Anyways, I just needed a year to be selfish and focus on me #selfishNat. I needed a year to experience life, a year where I didn’t feel guilty saying no to people, events and much more.

I needed to make sure that my cup was full before I ran out to help someone else without being drained. I needed my M.I.A session which included not picking up texts/calls from family/ friends (my squad was not having that).  I needed a year to being fully honest with myself, my mistakes my actions, my failures, my past. I needed a year to fully immerse myself in everything Nat (my spirituality, dance, books, monthly massage session, full on Bob Marley, Daniel Caesar concerts in my room and basement, love,sunflowers everywhere and more). I needed a year to fully speak my mind and communicate my thoughts and feelings. I needed a year to be PROPERLY Dicked Down*  by someone. Thanks 10+” .

Gosh I know, you were not expecting that. This might be new to you, but to close friends I am known as the Queen of TMI  or Ms. Ray Charles to BS.

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But as I was saying, I needed a year to preserve my energy, to live in the moment and a time to plan for the future and I got that and more!

This self discovery I experienced in 2018 was scary. I mean gosh where do I start. I made a commitment to write down what I wanted out of the year which meant working on myself both physically and mentally. So going to the gym 3 times a week was the first task I had to tackle and because my gym was 4 minutes away I had no excuses not to be there. Once that started, it helped me become disciplined in so many areas professionally and mentally.  I mean, who voluntarily wakes up for a 6am gym session to run and do burpees?  On many occasions every time my 5 am alarm rang I felt like throwing up, but I owed myself this consistency and sacrifice so I got up.

I also made it my duty to become debt free and that was a huge check on my bucket list. So now we are investing creating businesses, taking risks and shit.

I took the time to focus on my career as well. Recently got promoted to Senior Recruiter at my firm, exceeding my own expectations and more. I was even was featured on Black Enterprise Magazine giving out tips on how to negotiate salaries.

But most importantly I made it my mission to love myself moreeeeeeeeee. I never really had an issue loving myself but when life hits you with certain individuals and experience that make you DOUBT yourself, it easy to go on into your little corner and question your worth. Yeah Buddy, not happening AGAIN. With that being said: loving myself instantly brought people into my life that SHOWED me the love I always wanted. 

Spiritually, I became more connected to my body and my higher power. And in many instances God tested me and I did not like it. For example, the guy that checked every box on my list, and then when he saw me prayed over my food looked at me like I had 2 heads. Yeahhhh about that… I respect your decision but we can’t be more than friends Friend. 🙂

Also, I started something at the end of the year where everyday I wrote down 5 things for which I was Grateful. This little task quickly reminded how blessed I was. In addition to that, ssomeone made me realize how wealthy I am. They told me “ you know you’re worth more than 4 million dollars?” A bit puzzled at the statement I said “what do you mean?” he said “Your heart is valued at 1.4MM, your lungs $400,000 and so forth. So Madame, know your worth and take care of your body Ok.” Check it yourself

So, I know you signed up for a career oriented blog and here I am divulging my personal life and all. I spent the past 4 years interviewing professionals about their lives and careers, and last year I  decided to turn the mic on myself. With that being said, there isn’t a word or a thing that you can tell me about myself that I don’t already know; the good and the bad habits.

So here’s to taking Ginger/ Celery juice shots! To Loving and Forgiving. Growing Financially, Dancing like no one is watching, Having Breakfast at Soho House and running naked in The Hampton’s! Here’s to Living.

Welcome to my Freshman year of Life2.0

PS. Shout out to my tribe, my group chats for being a listneing ear, a shoulder to cry on and a supportive loving family and calling me out on my BS. I love you!<3

5 Things I Have Learned From Women Who Lunch Brunch  

A couple of weeks ago, I attended my second Women Who Lunch Brunch, which took place at  Benchmark Restaurant near downtown Brooklyn. Women Who Lunch Brunch is a vibrant online community joined by a group of multifaceted professional women who refused to be boxed in.

Curated by Roodelyne Jean Baptiste, Digital Marketer & Owner of RSocks, this event discussed topics ranging from entrepreneurship, finances to relationship, and also self-love. Honestly there is nothing more that I enjoy in life besides pancakes and mimosa then being surrounded by open-minded individuals with not just dreams but set plans to achieve them. Unlike many brunches that I’ve attended over the past couple of years, this one is by far one of my favorite for a few reasons: everyone is welcoming, they give out hugs, and the attendees are very transparent about their experiences.

Guest speaker Lisa Francoeur Mesa of LinkedIn & owner of Fancyfied dropped some powerful gems during the course of our brunch that definitely helped us shaped our mindset for the upcoming year. The passion in her voice when discussing her lifestyle brand Fancyfied was truly inspiring. The crowd came from diverse background; doctors, professional photographers, designers, and real estate agents who despite their busy schedules are looking to grow and achieve more in their life

Check out these gems Lisa dropped during the bi- annual Women Who Lunch Brunch

Lisa Francoeur Mesa & Roodelyne Jean Baptiste

“People within your network can help or diminish your dreams.”

I can’t stress this enough, you are the sum of the people with whom you spend the most time. As  Kanye said, “Too many Urkels on your team, that’s why your wins low.” If you have movers and shakers well trust me, you too will find way to be one as well. However, as Lisa mentioned if your environment is toxic, no matter how long you’ve been friends with them DROP THEM.

“Carve out time to devote to your dream.”

Despite your job, make time for the side thing until it can become your full-time thing. Rome wasn’t build in one day nor will your dreams. We create excuses faster than we create our goals, but if it’s something that you want to achieve make time.

 Procrastination: You eat what you kill.

Is procrastination inevitable? No, however, don’t let it cripple you nor your dreams. Lisa’s solution to procrastination is quite simple: “Think about all the things you’ve achieved in your life and use that feeling to keep you going.” 

“How you show up anywhere is how you show up everywhere.”

For most of us, we tend to hide our personality when we are at work. However, Lisa mentioned that by being authentic to your values, others will be able to see you shine through. As my mom would say, “The right people will be attracted to you and your essence, so go out there and  be you!

Write down your goals.

What have you done to realize your goal today? Let the reminders and goals you set for yourself haunt you. I know it can sound daunting but don’t let circumstances nor time take away from achieving your purpose in life.

Let me know how you’re planning to wrap up this year’s goals and be on the lookout for the next Women Who Lunch Brunch.

Learn How Founder of Don’t 4get Me, Simone Goss is Helping Teen Moms.

Simone Goss is on a mission of empowering teen moms through her organization Don’t 4get Me. After becoming a mom at an early age, she realized that something was for missing. However, instead of complaining, she took a leap of faith and created an organization that was geared toward teen moms. Let’s find out more about her journey to motherhood but also her organization.


Don’t 4get Me is a clever name, what was your thought process when deciding the name?

Being a mother is not easy, and while there are many support groups and services for pregnant woman, there seems to be a lack resources towards teen mothers. These young ladies are no different, in fact, they need the support more than you can imagine. That’s why I wanted to make sure the girls knew that they aren’t forgotten and that there are people are willing to support and help them become successful individuals.

Why is it important to you to help young teens moms?
I was a teen mom, I know first hand the obstacles teen mothers face, from the snide remarks to the stares and the whispers. So I wanted to create an organization that could guide and help encourage them every step of the way. For me, helping them become successful individuals would complete my life but also help with my goal of transforming them from “Statistic” to Success.

We all stumble at some point in our lives, was there ever a time during the creation of your organization where you wanted to give up?
Absolutely!! When I first started out I wanted to put together a Christmas event for teen moms in foster care. I reached out to 100 shelters, sent emails but the response rate was surprisingly low, calls were ignored and one shelter told me, they couldn’t work with me because I wasn’t a 501 c 3. I remember being devastated and couldn’t understand why it was so difficult to help people in need.

What did you learn from it?

I learned that persistence is key. Just because one door closes or never opens doesn’t mean you can’t get in! You just have to try another door.

What does my freshman year of life mean to you?
To me it means the very beginning of my life, and that there are other chapters to be discovered.

How are you ensuring young girls that they can be successful?
By sharing my story and arming them with the resources they needed to be successful.

What do you want people to know about the challenges of being a teen mom?

Being a teen mom is not easy, besides caring for a child we also have to balance caring for ourselves, finishing school, securing a job and making time for a social life.

How many young women have you helped since starting your organization?

We have helped at least 20 girls so far since starting in June 2016.

How can others help the mission of the organization?
They are many ways you can help. We’re always looking for mentors, volunteers, and sponsors. We need people who are passionate about helping our young ladies.

What is your favorite quote that motivates you?

It is by Mahatma Gandhi “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

If you were to write a letter to your younger self about pursuing your dream what would you tell her?
I’d say my love ,this won’t be an easy journey. There will be days that you will feel like the world is against you. You’ll question and second guess yourself , BUT God is building your endurance so you can help a million girls like you become successful.

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